“Don’t set your expectations so high, and then your life will be successful.”—Edison Carpino
This quote came from my 14-year old son, Eddie. We were on the way home from school, and we started talking about senior quotes in the yearbook. You know, the quotes that seniors put under their picture so we can see a glimpse into their 18-year old brains. Some quotes are funny, some quirky, some prophetic…you get the picture. So, I asked Eddie what his quote will be, and without even thinking about it, he said, “Don’t set your expectations so high, and then your life will be successful.”
At first, I rolled my eyes and laughed. Really Eddie? That’s what you want to leave printed forever in the yearbook?? Now, when Eddie said that, he meant it in the teenager way. He was meaning the less responsibility that he has, the better. He was thinking he would always feel successful without really ever having to do anything. We had a good laugh. Oh Eddie.
But, the more I thought of his quote; I kind of started to agree with him. Except….of course, not in the way that Eddie meant it. So many times, we have these crazy high expectations of ourselves, those around us, and, well, life in general. We want everything to be perfect, easy, and to unfold exactly the way we planned. So…has that EVER happened? Has any project ever been easy? Has life been exactly the way you planned it since you were a kid? Let me answer that question for you….NO!
The funny thing is, when we don’t reach our expectation, we get totally let down. We pout, and pitch a grown-up fit. It’s not fair! It’s not how I thought it would be! But instead of being “put-out”, have we ever taken a second to actually reflect on how our lives did turn out? I mean, I have had some real roller coaster moments, but I am soooo happy that it didn’t turn out the way I planned. It turned out WAY better! And although, I still have expectations, I’m ok if they don’t turn out the way I want. The Lord knows what I need so much more than I do, and I am glad in that!
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11